Okay, let me start by saying I really don’t mean to sound patronizing, but I think this blog might be valuable. I used to be quite inattentive and got called out on it more than once. I decided to change my behavior, which admittedly took some effort, but over time, being thoughtful started to come naturally, and I even began to enjoy it. In a fast-paced world, thoughtfulness is truly a superpower. It’s all about genuine attention to the people around you. Small gestures can have a huge impact in so many areas! And the best part? Anyone can learn it. Here are a few practical tips I’ve personally used (and still use) to train your "thoughtfulness muscles." 💌
1. Add important dates to your calendar (with reminders!)
Your phone’s calendar is your best friend for this. Don’t just add birthdays, but also remember dates like anniversaries, the passing of loved ones, or other significant moments in your friends’ lives. A simple text or card on such a day can mean so much. I have a friend who always sends a card or message—birthdays, kids’ birthdays, even wedding anniversaries 🤯 Turns out he saves everything in his calendar.
💡 Pro tip: Add a reminder a week in advance so you have enough time to plan something special.
2. Ask yourself: what does this mean for them?
An event that seems small to you—like a first day at work, a move, a first driving lesson, or winning a competition—might be huge for someone else. Try to put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? Showing some attention during moments like these demonstrates that you care.
3. Ask follow-up questions and really listen
When someone shares a problem or a win, ask follow-up questions. People often mention things because they want validation or acknowledgment. Questions like, “What does this mean for you?” or “How did that feel?” (asked sincerely 😌) show that you’re listening and give them space to open up.
💡 Tip: Remember details and bring them up later. For example: “How did that presentation go that you were so nervous about?” It shows that you’re engaged.
4. Keep a stash of thoughtful gestures on hand
Whether it’s a stack of cards or a few small gifts, always have something ready. That way, you’ll be prepared for any moment that calls for a thoughtful gesture.
5. Make thoughtfulness a habit
Being thoughtful is often about small, everyday things. Complimenting someone, grabbing a coffee for a colleague, or just asking how someone is doing. When you consciously practice this, it quickly becomes second nature (I’m living proof of that! 😄).
